Get That Sparkle Back Into Your Sex Life Before It’s Too Late!

Forgive me for asking personal questions so soon, but how is your sex life looking at the moment? Are you still as active, happy and fulfilled in that department as you’d like to be? Or are you feeling horribly disappointed?

Do you find yourself struggling to muster any kind of desire to get intimate with your partner these days, preferring a cup of tea and a magazine to anything more…well…personal?

If this sounds at all like you, there’s no need to feel ashamed. Because you’re far from being alone: it’s estimated that 45% of women experience this during the years of the menopause and peri-menopause.

But there’s good news- a large percentage of these women didn’t feel like this forever. They didn’t wave goodbye to their sex lives and settle for granny pants and separate beds, but instead discovered the most effective solutions for the way they were feeling and went on to make a full ‘recovery’. In fact, thanks to my help and guidance many of them now proclaim that they actually have a better sex life than they have ever had before.

You can harness this secret to transform your own libido and sex life.

You can stop feeling unattractive, uncomfortable, sore and lethargic and instead get that sparkle back into your sex life. And you’ll be pleased to hear that it will be enjoyable, revealing and actually help strengthen your entire relationship.  Here’s everything you need to know.

Why your libido drops during the menopause

There are many reasons why your libido and enjoyment of sex can drop during the menopause and peri-menopause. This includes the physical, the psychological and even your relationship itself. Let me explain each of these in turn.

The physical

Oestrogen is a hormone that is used in the body for a variety of functions including your menstrual cycle, mood support, nerve protection and also heart health. Importantly, it also keeps your vaginal and genital area nourished with blood and the tissues nicely supple.

During the menopause, your oestrogen levels slowly begin to decline. When this happens, your body goes into a state of relative ‘withdrawal’. You experience more difficulty in becoming aroused, vaginal dryness and atrophy (where the walls become thinner and more fragile), and even an inability to properly reach climax. Sex can become uncomfortable and even painful.

In addition to all of this, you might find yourself suffering from a wide range of other symptoms that can make you feel pretty terrible. Sex is often the very last thing on your mind.

The psychological

But low libido isn’t just about what is going on with your hormones: it’s also about what is going on in your mind.

Because, as we know, the menopause difficult time for many women. Even if the physical symptoms aren’t too bad, you still have your thoughts and feelings about this time of your life to contend with.

You start to believe that you’re ‘past your prime’, old and unattractive, and even worthless now you can no longer have children. You no longer feel feminine, sexy and alluring. How could you when you’re pouring with sweat and struggling to cope with all of those changes in your body??

You might also start to question everything else in your life, from your achievements, to your life choices, to your career, relationships, the whole lot. You grieve for your lost youth, you ache for your fertile years and you just wish you didn’t have to cope with it all right now.

The whole transition can be utterly stressful and even depressing. It’s no wonder your sex life can suffer.

Your relationship

It’s important to mention that sometimes, the real issue isn’t your menopause. It’s nothing to do with your hormones or the way you are feeling about this time of change, but instead it’s your relationship.

If the relationship isn’t healthy, or indeed, if you don’t have a relationship at all, it’s understandable that your libido might be lower.

Ask yourself now- ‘how do I feel about my partner?’ You might be surprised at the answers you get.

How to make your sex life sparkle again

Reading all of this, you might feel as if you’re fighting a losing battle with your hormones and your emotions, but nothing could be further from the truth. You absolutely can reclaim your sex life with the right kind of support and guidance. Here’s what you need to focus on:

#1: Rebalance your hormones

With the right attention to lifestyle, optimum nutrition, relaxation, stress relief and also exercise you can help your body to find its new balance quickly and easily.

#2: Work through how you are feeling

A problem shared is a problem halved, so speak to someone about the way you are feeling. Share your feeling with your partner, your close friends or even the ladies on my wonderful menopause support group on Facebook. You are not alone, and the most support you get, the better.

#3: Seek treatment

There are many products on the market that can help ease the physical symptoms of the menopause. These include oestrogen creams or tablets which provide a topical application of oestrogen. Or you can also experiment with lubricants to make sex more comfortable.

#4: Use it or lose it

This really is true when it comes to sex. Unless you are enjoying regular sex, you will become smaller and tighter, making intercourse more painful. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to force yourself when you really aren’t in the mood, but it’s a good fact to bear in mind.

#5: It’s not all about penetration

The most satisfying part of sex isn’t the intercourse, it’s the intimacy. So why not focus on this instead? Enjoy kissing, cuddles, caressing and the power of touch as an expression of your sexual energy and how you feel about your partner.

Have heart that these symptoms won’t last forever, and you will enjoy a healthy sex life once again. Take care of your body and mind, share your problems, consider topical treatments and explore the sensuous side of yourself, and you will be amazed at the results.

I’ve helped numerous women overcome their problems just like these. I’ve guided women just like you through the wilderness of the menopause and helped them get their (sex) lives back, and I can do exactly the same for you.